Saturday, August 2, 2014
On the Move
I came out to the quiet of the deck to work on this post on a beautiful summer evening and before long, have been followed by two of my four children. I lamented at coming out where it was "quiet" and they both retorted, "You have 4 children. There's no such thing as having a quiet place". With this house being smaller than our other house, it will be challenging to find such a quiet place to work when the kids are awake, but we will adjust. My children are such a blessing to me. Despite the challenges and trials of single parenting, each of my children are such a gift and we certainly are learning the art of compromise.
As I think about explaining the benefits of coaching, I'm keenly aware of the lessons the Lord is teaching me and making me aware of. It takes asking the right questions, being sensitive to focusing on what is truly important in life, what one's values are and taking steps for positive change once that awareness is realized. It takes action!
It's hard to get going sometimes, though, and the tendency is complacency and adapting to the way things are, but yet not really living life to the fullest. What comes with that, of course, is a lack of growth and feeling "stuck" leading to frustration. Being in a sense, "compelled to move", can have various results depending on one's disposition despite the circumstances. I really don't like the process of moving. My mother still lives in the house I was raised in and the only time I moved was when I was about 20 and I moved north from our family home south of Seattle up to Bellingham, roughly 100 miles away, to go to college. The moves as a single person were of my own initiation and exciting. I moved quite a few times during college and after but it was not a big deal as a young, single woman. Once my husband and I got married, we moved twice before we started our family and lived in the same house for 12 years, where all our children were born.
Since Joshua, our youngest, was born 8 years ago, we have moved now, six times. It is so much harder moving with children! The last 3 times, since moving to Northern Idaho, we have been so blessed by friends and family, helping with packing and moving. Despite the trials that come with moving, not to mention the disappointment of being asked to move due to owners wanting to sell the rental house, there is a lot to be learned and many blessings, especially when you make yourself open to them, "creating awareness". For example, I am learning, as I near the end of my 40's, that "Less is more", and God has a plan and I need to trust Him in what I will be learning through the experience, gratefully purging and focusing on what is most important. I am grateful for all the wonderful people we have met along our journey these past 8 years in the various places we have lived. I am also learning how to manage each of my children's special needs while also figuring out how to balance my own, to not only get re-charged, but to find that quiet time and space to enjoy the Presence of the Lord so as to seek His direction as a parent and with regards to how He wants to use me, flawed as I am. I am learning to prioritize and discerning what is taking up space and robbing time from what is of utmost importance. There is truth to the adage to "count one's blessings" for they are always there.
Our family has been through a lot of changes these last 8 years, some have been challenging but within these times of change and challenge, we have learned a lot, especially in regards to God's faithfulness. Life is full of change. Hopefully, we are making changes for the better and I can see of no better way to support one another on this journey than the talks we have during our re-instituted evening devotions. We currently reading the lives of the saints from Amy Welborn's Loyola Kids Book of Heroes and Loyola Kids Book of Saints. We need all the help we can get along this life's journey and learning of the faith of those who have gone before us and how their experiences relate to ours, today, is a blessing our entire family benefits from.
How has God been moving you and how have you responded to life's changes?