An area of interest to many parents is, "How do I not only balance it all, but stay sane in the process? It's so easy when focusing on your kids, especially when they have special needs, to forget or neglect yourself. It can get overwhelming fast and so easy to make allowances that you don't normally do and would later regret, all in the name of seeking immediate relief from the chaos. I have learned that when I am well rested and There are many days I burn the candle at both ends and stay up much later than I should. I am learning the necessity of developing good self care habits and above all, keeping it simple because we all know life is too complicated enough and that K.I.S.S (Keep it Simple Sweetie) method works for a reason.
I once heard it described that to help balance things out in life, we really need to focus on what's going on in our "Play, Work and Worship" areas of our lives. It also helps to have someone available who speaks truth in an encouraging way, while also holding you accountable so as to encourage growth.
Some vital things to keep in mind to find balance and encourage sanity:
- Cherish having a good attitude and sense of humor.
- When the kids are melting down around you, it helps so much to have something you can focus on to keep you calm so you can RESPOND and NOT REACT. You may need to take some deep breathes and model what to do for your kids. Now they don't need to know you are meditating on how good that glass of wine is going to taste later after things have settled down, especially pared with that piece of organic dark chocolate (which is, of course, good for you!).
- Be patient with yourself just as much as others...change takes time and celebrate the changes, no matter how small they may be.
- Get good reast
- Eat healthy.
- Continue to reach out to friends for support and perspective (It's easy to loose track as to what is "normal".)
- Exercise and if at the least, do something physical with your kids.
- See what you can cut out to make life as simple as possible.
- Develop your own interests even if it's for a few minutes a day.
- Don't forget to spend time in prayer. Steal away for 15 minutes, at least, to get your spirit filled up and rest in the truth of how loved you are by God. Reflect on the love you have for your children and then focus on how God loves you no less.
- Be willing to be humble. It's okay to say you need help. There is a time to minister and a time to be ministered to and, believe it or not, it blesses others to help. They just need to know how they can help in big or small ways.
- Set boundaries for yourself.